Those two words keep popping into my head, and with them this sense of heaviness that won’t go away.
Those two words are what Michael said when he called me two nights ago. Words I had been waiting to hear. Dreading them, but needing to hear them also.
It’s been such an emotional roller coaster this last year. She would go into the hospital and we would think “this is it”. Then that tenacious fighting spirit of hers would kick in and she would surprise everyone and bounce back
But each bounce brought less of her back.
That 87 year old body got more and more frail.
That witty brain became dull and foggy.
Each time I’d think about how I would miss her. What a special person she was. I’d cry. I’d grieve.
In between I told myself I was getting used to this. No more phone calls, she couldn’t hold the phone. No more visits and hugs, we are in separate states.
I thought I would get this all out of my system so that when it finally happened I’d be calm and controlled.
Michael called. I was calm. Shock I think. A sense of finality.
The calm didn’t last as long as I hoped.
Words I’d expected to hear and now I was saying them. First to Steve, then Charles, Kat, David. Keely the next morning when we told her we were leaving in a few hours for Little Rock.
Each time I told someone the reality would hit and I would tear up.
I was in a fog trying to get three people packed up, perishables in the fridge packaged for a friend to pick up. Steve had to go get hay, I needed to wash my dress to wear to the funeral. Phone calls…
We drove in a blizzard for the first few hours. I was writing the obituary as we drove.
Which is when I realized I’d left my dress in the dryer. Oh well.
I’m overwhelmed by the love and prayers being sent our way by friends. Don’t ever think that a phone call, email, text or Facebook post isn’t important. It’s hard to explain the amount of comfort I get knowing that people are praying for us.
One of my friends, Marc MacYoung, asked me to tell a story about her. I already had several pages of stories written on this trip. It was like I needed to hurry and capture them so they wouldn’t go away. As if now that she is gone her story would be gone too.
But in the end, that really is what our life is. A story. Some of it we write ourselves and narrate in first person. Some chapters are through the eyes and experiences of those around us.
There will be a lot of “Marty Stories” during the next few days. I’ll be writing as many of them down as I can.
Moms story was a long and complete one. It was full of adventure, comedy, tragedy. It was rich in love and friendship.
It was a great story.